Angry and Loving It

Even the most zen, enlightened people experience anger and other negative emotions from time to time. 

Even though it can feel overwhelming, anger can be one of the most powerful and productive emotions. It’s also one of the most destructive depending on how you let it live inside you and how you express it.

Have you ever noticed how people often become more fit or successful after a break up? Or how injustice can urgently spark people to come up with miraculous new solutions to better themselves and the world.

Anger holds a high energy. It can drive us forward with incredible momentum if we let ourselves respond rather than react to our lives. 

Feeling anger more effectively:

  1. Take a step back when someone angers you and try to redirect your feelings. Are you really angry with them?  Or are you angry with the circumstances that have led to the beliefs they hold which dictate their behaviour. Address the issues not the person.
  2. Use your anger as motivation for your next workout! Imagine yourself stomping away your problems under your feet as you run, or punching them as you hit a heavy bag.
  3. Detox! When we hold onto anger, we often hold onto toxins and weight as well. As we release our anger, we shed toxins and excess effortlessly. Cleansing your physical body (and space) can help cleanse the heart and mind too.
  4. Find where the anger lives within your body. Send white healing light to that area and imagine moving the anger through your body and out your feet to be recycled back into the Earth.
  5. Meditate with your anger. Sit with it for at least 10 minutes. Allow yourself to safely explore your emotions without reacting or taking action. Discover what part of you is upset by someone or something.
  6. Laugh! Make light of the situation Be like the Heyoka!- “The heyókȟa functions both as a mirror and a teacher, using extreme behaviors to mirror others, and forcing them to examine their own doubts, fears, hatreds, and weaknesses. Heyókȟa have the power to heal emotional pain. They provoke laughter in distressing situations of despair, and provoke fear and chaos when people feel complacent and overly secure, to keep them from taking themselves too seriously or believing they are more powerful than they are.”-[3]
  7. Use the momentum of your anger to propel you forward into your next project or to bring a new zest of life force into any current undertakings.
  8. Forgive! Let go! Light hearts are happy hearts. Send love back to the situation or person who angered you and float the fuck on with your fabulous life!

 

 

 

[3] Nelson, Elizabeth Hoffman (1998). “The Heyoka of the Sioux”

 

 

 

 

 

 

Releasing Yourself From A Rut!

My life is a wonderful rollercoaster of ups and downs. The downs these days are few and far between but sometimes  things spring up and really throw a kink in my flow.

About 6 weeks ago I dislocated my knee, and had a work accident where I lost my whole toe nail and had to get stitched up. I was working jobs I didn’t want while waiting on projects with other people to start up. I was losing my self confidence with every minute that was spent not living aligned with my truth.

I felt like a prisoner in my body. I was used to my routine of morning workouts, commuting by bike and feeling super energized and fit. I felt like a prisoner in my mind because I was acting like I was a helpless victim. I was working way below my capabilities, feeling less myself as my talents were underutilized and unrecognized. As my body began to heal, and my tolerance for my misery was nearly all but evaporated, I finally decided it was time to move powerfully into my future.

The first step to getting out of a rut is deciding you are finally ready to get over your BS excuses and get back in the driver seat.

The longer you stew in your own misery, defending your poor behaviour with excuses, the longer you will feel stuck! You are the Architect of your life. You are in control of how you feel each day and what you are working towards. If you are not intentionally creating your life, you will end up with “life happening to you.”

You must see yourself as successful, and invite all your dreams into existence by thinking and speaking positively.

I love affirmations, and use them every single day! It may feel fake and weird at first to affirm things you don’t currently have. Do it anyway! In time, you will retrain your brain to think more positively. Some examples of some things I say to myself (usually in the mirror) each day are:

  • I am healthy and live in a body full of vitality that knows how to heal quickly and effortlessly.
  • I am successful and use my skills lovingly in my work.
  • I have loving relationships with people who inspire me.
  • I deserve all the abundance and happiness I desire.

Ask for HELP!

You do not have to work alone. Arrange a “work date” with a friend, mentor, partner or even stranger. An outside perspective is often enough to shift our mindset out of our funks and launch into a different course of action. The work date can involve actual work that you need a hand with, brainstorming/solution seeking, or simply just a rich conversation about how they have found success. People love to showcase their talents, and pass on their knowledge, so you may also be helping them see themselves in a whole new light by allowing them to share with you.

Treat yo self!

Remind yourself that you do not have to achieve anything to be worthy of spoiling. You deserve to be treated just for being your lovely self. The more self love we give ourselves, the more self worth we will create. When we feel we are worthy , we work towards amazing goals that really seem possible and we really enjoy the essence of who we are in our current lives.

Next, jump into action.

It’s easy to get too caught up on why you were stuck. Sometimes there are no answers, and the whole searching process can leave us feeling confused and lost. So instead of dwelling in the past, jump into the future!  Don’t worry about trying to get all your ducks in a row first. You can “paralyze” yourself by doing this. It is important to visualize success, but don’t feel like you have to solve all your solutions before you act. One of the best pieces of advice I ever got was from David Lavin of the Lavin Agency who was giving a talk on Business for people who hate business at the Soho House Toronto. He said, “Fuck Business plans and it is way better to spend 90% of your time doing and 10% of your time fixing any mistakes/making adjustments.” When you follow this strategy you end up making 40 decisions a day versus the 3 or 4 you might make if you feel the need to figure everything out before you act.

You are exactly where you need to be, and things have happened exactly as they should have. Your struggles can have gifts if you learn from and are motivated by them.  Be gentle with yourself, and don’t take yourself so seriously. You will look back on your “ruts” a year from now and laugh at how silly your self imposed limitations were.

10 things to remember when you feel stuck (from lawofattraction.com):

  1. Feeling stuck is a sign that its time to make a change.
  2. Even the tiniest possible step is progress.
  3. You don’t have to have it all figured out to move forward.
  4. Nothing changes if nothing changes.
  5. New beginnings can feel like endings.
  6. Beautiful things happen when you clear negativity from your life.
  7.  Believe what you heart tells you, not what others say.
  8. Stop overthinking, whatever happens, happens.
  9. If it’s meant to be it will happen.
  10. Your best is yet to come.

BODY LOVE

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1. Drink enough water. This is so simple and we are so lucky to live in a place where we have immediate, unlimited access to fresh drinking water. 8 glasses a day is key. A tip from Cameron Diaz is to fill a 1 litre bottle and leave it on the bathroom counter. When you wake up, slam the bottle! Your body loses so much water during the night breathing in and out so replenishing it first thing in the morning will instantly revitalize you. Have you ever watched a plant after being watered? Your body is no different!

2. Use natural products. Make your own beauty remedies at home from natural ingredients without chemicals which can act as hormone disruptors. Adding essential oils can also compliment your wellness routine! Lavender, mint and rose for relaxation, citrus, lemongrass, thieves oil , bergamot for vitality and energy.

3. After your shower each day stand in front of a mirror and touch each part of your body beginning with your face and repeat “I see you, I feel you, I hear you, I love you” to each part. Let your body know you are here to love it. If you don’t believe yourself at first when you day I love you, fake it until you make it and eventually you’ll accept and love yourself or realize you have to make some changes in order to mean it.

4. Sleep! Ensure you’re getting enough sleep! 7-9 hours is prime. Your body needs sleep to regenerate, and to process memory. During dream time you also tap into important messages from your higher self and from guides and angels . If you have trouble sleeping consider setting up a night time ritual for yourself. Use lavender essential oils, either in a spray for your pillow or apply directly to your skin. Keep an amethyst stone close to or under your pillow. Avoid electronics, news and eating for at least 2 hours before bed if you can. Choose a nighttime meditation to help you relax. Pray to guides and Angels to protect you and send you any important messages while you sleep. You can also use a dream journal to decipher messages.

5. Learn about nutrition. If you don’t know how the food you’re feeding yourself is made or how it affects your body…. you’d better find out! Eat clean, whole, natural, organic food! Raw when possible.

6. Colonics. If you want to really cleanse, do 4-6 Colonics. You can clean out months or even years of sludge in your intestines. You’ll feel light and be much more loving with what you put into your body afterwards.

7. Cleansing and detox. Forgiveness and letting go. Detox is not only physically wonderful, as our bodies can literally regenerate every 2 years, healing really can take place, it’s also incredibly clarifying for the mind. As you release unwanted toxins, also release the mind toxins which are harming you.

8. Hug people! After 20 seconds of hugging our body starts to release oxytocin, a feel good hormone that makes us feel loved and comforted. The wonderful thing about a hug is after those 20 seconds, you AND your huggee will experience those warm fuzzy feelings! Share the love!

9. Explore your own sexuality. Give your body what it wants! Explore what feels good, what doesn’t and use your voice to ask for it! If you have a partner, or someone you are intimate with, ensure they know exactly how you’d like to be touched and loved. Many people , women especially all but shut down their sexuality if they don’t have a partner. Remember it’s okay to love, touch, explore your own body. Enjoy it!

10. Pamper yourself – you can let yourself know you care with actions that are pampering and full of self love. Get a message, a Reiki treatment, manicures, haircuts. It’s okay to put yourself first, to spend money as an investment in your own wellbeing!

11. Move! Exercise, find new depths of strength in yourself. Move at least 30 minutes a day! This can be a walk, run, dancing, start with something you enjoy! Exercise releases feel good endorphins and will keep you connected to your body. Make exercise the same level priority as brushing your teeth. Schedule it in. For an added boost of feel good vibes and vitamin D, exercise OUTSIDE!

Clothing. Clothe yourself in nice fabrics and colors that make you feel your best. Have clothes tailored to fit you properly and donate or sell any clothes that don’t make you feel your best! Fashion can be whatever you want it to be. For added feel good vibes, choose clothing locally made from natural materials.

IMAGE CREDIT: Joanna Thangiah